weight journey

The health Oath

we follow two young women who are tre deying to lose weight, the health oath is about the oath the made to God that they will be dedicated to eating right and to exercise. this month we will be introducing you to them and we will be following their progress through the year and every issue we will have an update on the weight loss or gain. This oath or pact they made was in inspired by a movie "lying to be perfect"

Profiles:

Sinazo Naz Mtshengu

The Chief Editor of WOT magazine and freelance writer

woman of God

studying BA Media communication and culture

her goal is to lose 30 kg in 7 months and to be a size 36

her reasons for doing this, she wants to be healthy and look better then she does right now, she says she is beautiful and she has great self esteem, but she knows that she can look better then she does now, and it would be nice to wear clothes she would like to wear with out thinking to much about it.

she says she will stay dedicated to the oath, not because she really wants this, she says because the oath was made to God, she tells me that she is the not very disciplined and she know she will break the rules sometimes, but she says knowing that it is not just an oath between her and her friends, will make it more serious.

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Lulama Kimberly Nkosi

she is from Mpumalanga

God fearing woman

she believes in shooting for the starts. her favorite quot is "go big or go home".

studying a BA general Majoring in Business

her reasons for doing this: she wants to lose weight, she says she wants a flat, tight stomach. She is motivated by her cuz who lost a lot of weight. Lullama is not a big girl, she just want to tighten up.

she also says, the oath will help her keep on track and she fears not sticking with it, She wants this and she has her mind set on achieving it.

Well we will be updating you on the oath and the progress of the girls with each issue. Good luck girls!!!!!

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God makes it all right

We all have been through our ups and downs in life, we often wonder where this God we serve is. When all is falling on all sides of our life. Well we even go to the bible and it seems like, the bible tells us what we already know, but what we are not seeing in our lives. God says he will never leave nor forsake you, but still you feel like that He has forsaken you. Well He has not, He hears all your cries and all your pain. God is looking at you and saying, you are my gold and I have to make sure that you are the best and finest gold that this earth has ever seem so it is important that you go through the fire of purification so you can be refined, it may hurt right now but tomorrow it will be a deferent story. The Lord says, joy comes in the morning, so learn to have joy even when it hurts, even when you see no joy around, because you have something greater inside that is the source of your joy, look up and praise the Lord, for He has made it well with your soul. God has made it all right.




This is your time


This is month that has been sat aside for you, let your heart lead you, know the direction you want to take let all the great thing in life be part of your destiny. Remember what you put out to the world will determine what you receive from the world. Give you all this month in all you do, never slack on anything, remember these a higher power, a power above your own strength. The world is your play ground do not be limited in the things you can do. You are great, you are beautiful, believe and live it. You are born to lead and you are the future, you are a woman of tomorrow.


Jeremiah 11:29 for i know the plans i have for you.......Declares the Lord.

Girl on a mission

Girl on a mission


Bonang Mathema


Not many people know where Bonang started, she just magically appeared one day on TV SABC1 live and has been there since she’s stayed’ actually Bonang has been around since she was a teen, you just didn’t know


This name is associated with young media blood, a woman who knows what she wants, young gifted and black. Bonang waits for no invitation in her world domination mission, if domination is what she wants to do, then the girl has done just that. She has taken over the SA media industry by storm. She has been on almost every magazine cover in the country, she has been all over our tv screens and with one of Yfm most listened to shows, Bonang has a voice and she is using, coaching up and coming radio and TV presenters.


She has been named the countries best dress person, and if you have seen this woman anywhere then you will not dispute that fact. She has made a name for herself not jus in television or radio, but also in the modelling world, she has been part of some of South Africa’s best designers shows, not only that but she has gone to create her own name in the fashion world, with a line for legit, with her own line of bags called Baby Star. Bonang is one of the most sort after MC’s in the country, she has worked with a number of international starts and local.


Well your girl B, has taken over SA, next she’s taking over the world.

A leap into love

Author: Lonwabo Zimela








A leap into love











As we all know or should know, this year is a leap year. Why is this relevant you may ask?






Well, for some people it simply means that they get to have an extra day in the year. Others on the other hand, believe that women may ask out men. There is only but one error with this.
Traditionally it was the man who would pursuit and court a lady and if successful win her love. This is evident in the Shakespearean era. The reality is that times have drastically changed. A simple question to prove this claim, Ladies, say you liked a man and wanted to ask him out but couldn’t for the mere fact that it wasn’t a leap year, would you be willing to wait two maybe three years for the next leap year?
From my perspective, I find absolutely nothing wrong for a woman to ask out a man. I myself have been approached by women on many occasions and I must say, I find it very attractive. It says something about the woman, it tells me that she knows what she wants and isn’t afraid of going for it.


So ladies be it a leap year or not, find the courage to take a leap into love








Influence of television.
by Abongile Linqa


Influence of television.


Television is a form of media that has great ability to influence and brainwash the viewing public. Television maneuvers women into believing that everything that is being displayed on television is true or rather considered by most as being correct.






Over the years television has influenced women in a negative and positive way. I had the great privilege of speaking to women in the small town of matatiele and had the great chance of evaluating their views and experiences. Most of the women I conversed with said that television has played a huge role in their lives especially when it comes to their physical image. The women also said that television has brought about the image of the skinny girl, with blonde hair and blue eyes this was therefore considered the 'perfect girl'. This image has led to most women wanting to change the way they look because if you weren't considered 'perfect' then it was difficult to get into the media and pursue your dream if you wanted to be an actress, presenter etc. This has led to many women having a low self-esteem.






Television is a great tool for learning,communication and information, though the information may be misleading at times. You get to travel around the world without leaving the comfort of your home. Television has tremendously influenced the love lives of many women, every lady would love to be swept away by their prince charming, it is quite unfortunate that most relationships don't work out because of the high expectations women have when in a relationship.


Whether we like it or not television has a great impact on the way we behave and see ourselves so it is up to us individually to take control over our lives and not let technology ruin our lives.

Disabilty for possibility

Disabilty for possibility


We set down to chat to one of the most active physically disabled woman i know, when i say active i mean she is involved in so many movements and hold high possession in local and provincial organisation for people who are disabled, she stands as a voice for many in her community. Andiswa Kakaza. Many will know her as a clerk at the TB hospital in Matatiele Khotsong TB hospital.

She is the oldest of four siblings, to a single mother who was unemployed, Andiswa finished her high school and because she could not afford to carry on, she had to find work, to support herself and her siblings including her mother. She took on the role of a mother to her younger siblings and had to pay for their school fees and make sure that her mother and they were taken care of. She then went on to educating herself, furthering her studies and has attained a diploma in HRM; she was the first person in her family to attain any high education.

She was not born with her disability; she was involved in a car accident in 1990 that left one leg shorter than the other. She tells me that she had a great support system, her family. She tell me that she grew up in a religious family that didn't believe in using medicine, and so her aunt being a nurse knew he importance of getting medical attention to my condition, took me in as her own. She tells me that she was teased as a young child she didn't not understand why this was happening to her. She says any time she would see people gossiping she would think they are talking about her and she would get defensive and fight them. She grew up with her older brother (cousins) who taught her how to fight, she tells me that she was great fighter, but she started a fight she could not win she would play her disability to her advantage. She says inn high school she stopped fighting, because she felt excepted and part of everyone. By the way she never had problems with getting boyfriends, but she feared being played or used, she knew she was different so that was her biggest problem with dating.


I asked her how she feels when people stare on the streets, she tells me that people have different views of "them"; some people think that disable people are luck, even asking them for lotto numbers. She feels that disable people have been oppressed, they have not been provided with equal opportunity for a good education only 3 in 10 people with a disability are educated. she tells me that the is a stereotype of disabled people, even when applying for a job as soon as someone hears the name disabled they don’t think you can do anything, and that is no the cause many disabled people are able to do a lot of thing that abled body people can do.


They don’t like the term physically challenged, because to them the disability will not pass, a challenge is something that will pass, there prefer physically disabled. They are capable, but limited by the environment.
When she looks in the mirror she does not see her disability but she sees a person, just like any other person next to her. She tell me, she is human first, and then disabled.
Here all the boards she serves on: Local, District, Provincial -NYDA, social Development. Body representing Disabled people, education programs- awareness programs.


I asked her one important question; "are you happy". She gave simple answer, yes she is happy. Thinking of where she comes from, to where God has places her, she thanks God for her brain, from taking her from A-B-C. She is proud of her family as big as it is, i was the first graduate.
She want people to treat people with disabilities with respect and know they are to are humans.

Bella Liphapang

Bella Liphapang







She is an African woman, child of God, mother, wife and a hard worker. Business woman Bella.




She is the mother of two beautiful young teenage girls, her two daughters do not live with her they are in boarding school. This gives her a chance to do her work which is also her passion. Her family means the world to her and holidays are the best time for her because she gets to be with the family. They love taking family holidays as often as they can
Because she works long hours, so for her the more time she spends with her family , the more she can work. She has a very strong support system, which is important for anyone doing anything, more so business that require a lot of time.

She loves Matatiele for her business, because this is where she started, there where a few resources so she came with her own ideas and could nurtured them into something great. The community have supported her and her business. She says that Matatiele was a great place to start this business, because she grew at her own pace and had no real competition, she wouldn't have done it anywhere else.
Bella had a passion for this business, she had no formal qualifications for decorating, but she went to a course over a weekend that taught her all the basics of decorating. This proves passion can be all it takes. She has came up with new ideas as she grew and she learnt as she went along, listening to what her clients wanted and she learnt from them and she is still learning.


I asked her why she started this business and she told me as a “makoti” ( new bride) she was required to attend a lot of events and she was not to impressed with some of the tents she would be sitting in, so she decided to start by buying two tents . She also started to decorate the tents, she used her own curtains from home and some of her own decoration like flowers she had at home, she would listen to what her clients wanted and she grew from there. She tells me that she did not have money to start her business, but thanks God for her husband who supported her and gave her starting capital. Her husband did not like the idea of borrowing money from the bank.
She has worked in a number of places, Mthatha, Durban, Underberg, Swartberg and the market she really would love to crack into is JHB.
She tells me of the importance of humility and staying humble when you are a person in business and a person on the height of success. “I thank God for who I am”
"In business you have to know how to deal with people,people are demanding and you have to be able to communicate with them", Bella builds relationships with her clients, she believes that clients are the most important people for your business and the best way to advertise your product, people know people and if you provide them with value for their money, they will talk about you and even refer people to you. She stays in touch with her clients and builds friendship with them, she give first class treatment to everyone coming through her doors.
She would love to share her knowledge of the business with the younger generation, teaching them the skills and tricks of this trade. She would love to open a school of décor. I asked her what she does to relax. Bella loves reading, she spends around R200 on book a month, she love music and spending time with her family.




Hard work, discipline, humility, Bella does not compete with anyone but herself. This a great recipe for success, be you, don’t try to be anyone or compete with anyone. Be humble and disciplined. RESPECT PEOPLE.


She would love to mentor kids, give them work experience.
She is one of the most successful business women in Matatiele and yet she is the most humble woman I know.
Thank you Bella Lephapang for this great feature.

Change someones life adn Rewards of giving

author: Simile Mboto

Change some ones life and Rewards of giving


We always preach about ubuntu and fail to practice it. We wait upon the government for everything even when God has blessed us with the ability to provide food for more than one family, when He has given us money to take a street kid into our homes or send a child to school. When the Almighty has given us the strength to provide bursaries for the disadvantaged students.

Today we have to face consequences of an increasing crime rate because of all the uneducated kids who wander the streets looking for ways to provide for their families and put food in their bellies. We need to learn to open up our arms and share also with our neighbors so we can touch and change people's lives. While doing so we would be unconsciously planting wings in their dreams so they could learn how to fly towards success. God is not going to use stones to bring breakthroughs into people's lives, He is waiting to use us. We must be ready to be His delivery girls or rather post women to deliver breakthroughs to His children.



Giving and changing somebody's life is not always about giving money as the saying goes, "when you give a man a fish, you provide food for him for that moment, but when you teach him how to fish you provide food for him for many days".


Another man also said the most precious things in life are free. Sometimes all people need is a hug, a friend, a smile, family, love and sleep. Sure money makes the world go round but the greatest things in life, money can't buy. So go out and give your time, share your love and your happiness. What ever God has blessed you with make it a blessing to someone's life. God upholds and rewards those who give.

Supermom

Supermom




We interviewed a woman who has made a name for herself in her career, a single mother raising three. How did she do it? We chat to her to find out.

One of the most difficult jobs in the world is being a parent. This job does not come with a manual or instructions, but you improvise as you go along in hopes that you get it right. It’s so much better when there are two of you. At least you have some one to share the responsibility with; but what happens when you have no one to share the responsibility of bringing up a child with.
Without a partner this makes your job even more difficult, because now you have to act both as the mother and father. Single mothers have to take care of everything; juggling time between work and parental duties. Sometimes when you are a single parent your social life is non-existent. You have sacrificed themselves for their children.
These are supermoms.
Good afternoon Doctor, thank you for taking the time to chat with us.
Question: how many children do you have?
"Three,2 girls and 1 boy"
Question: we know you are a single parent, how have you been able to raise your children up alone, and who has helped you with them?
"It hasn't been easy, I lost my husband in 1994, my youngest was only 10 and I had to raise my teenage children. I had a lot of responsibility. But God helped me and the support of my family and my 93year old father. I remember once I had no money and my child needed it, so I called up my sister and told her, next thing my child calls me saying thank you for the money. I have a great support system".
Question: now you are a career woman and a mother, how do you find the balance?
"It was not easy as well. I had help, because I went to medical school as an adult, so I would only have holidays to spend with my children. I had to work hard and complete my studies. God raised my kids".
Question: how do you feel about dating?
"I believe if you have the energy and time then you should do it, but I don't think I am able to date. The are times we do need some company. But dating is not easy".
Question : if you had one wish for your children what would it be?
"My wish would be that my children know the Lord and for things to work in their favour.
Question: what do you do to relax?
"I switch on the tv, and watch christian networks and movies. I can stay up till 3am just watching these networks".
Question: what makes a great mother?
"It is someone who is there for her kids, forgives, accommodates her children and gives unconditional love. Allow your kids to make mistakes."Being there"
Question : would you say you are a great mother?
"My kids would be able to answer that. But I am trying my best, I guess".
Question: if you had advice for any mother or mother-to-be what would it be?
"Accept your child, do not compare your children, be there, offer guidance and make sure your kids know you are there".
Thank you so much for the interview.

spirituality

Be happier in life

Look at yourself. Evaluate yourself,look at how far you are in life, be honest with yourself, don’t hold back anything. Identify the negative and the positive. Choose the thing in your life you want to change the most. The most negative aspect of your life right now.
Admit the problem to yourself and think about admitting to someone you trust as well. Make a change.
Write down that problem and make a decision to change and think of why you want to change. Look at different ways you can make this change. Talk to people, find out the best ways to change. Maybe you can attend meetings or research on the internet for different clubs or websites you can join.
Stay committed to the change, think of the long term benefits of making the change in your life and the people the problem has affected and how the change is affecting them or how it will affect them .
keep record of your progress, this will help you see how far you have come and it will motivate you to do even better.
Once you have done it and seen the progress you have made, help and motivate others that are where you where. Share your success and inspire someone else.
You’ve done it! Enjoy life, because you are a better you.






Prayer point This New Year Lord open doors for me, make me the best me I can be, remove all negative people in my life, bless me Lord and let me be a blessing. Help me take risks and work hard towards my dreams and goals. Lord lead my steps, stretch out your hand towards me and carry me. Amen

My child replaced me

Author: karabelo Lenong - 11/27/2011 - 14:55

Pregnancy in my eyes is the beginning of a new life. It is one of the many great gifts from God. A new life in the family brings an atmosphere filled with love, peace, joy and happiness. The whole family comes together to celebrate the miracle of life. This perspective, has however, been changed or rather shattered by the teenagers of our generation. Teenage pregnancy is an issue that is always discussed the are thing we are thought could prevent it from happening. The one thing that people rarely ever consider when talking about teenage pregnancy, is the damages it does to the families involved and how many relationships can be destroyed. This article is based on a story about a fifteen year old girl, whose pregnancy has left her relationship with her mother in shreds. “My name is Samone Moodley, I am a fifteen year old high school student, and I’m six moths pregnant. When I first found out that I would be a mother at the age of fifteen, I felt like my whole life was falling apart. Many people told me that I deserved what had happened, and that I knew what I was doing. My pregnancy, like many teenagers was not planned. My boyfriend and I had been dating well over a year now and he had respected everything that I stand for, including sex after marriage. Well, that was until recently.

My boyfriend asked me to have sex with him and I refused. He asked for quite a while, and I kept refusing. He eventually became furious with and in turn, forced himself onto me. I was raped by my boyfriend. For days I felt disgusted with myself, until I could no-longer look at myself in the mirror. I skipped my period and so I decided to get a home pregnancy test, and I was positive. I cried myself to sleep. A few days later, I realized that I could keep this to myself, and soon decided to tell my boyfriend. He was furious with me, and demanded that I get have an abortion. I refused and he lashed out at me, and thereafter, he left me. I became a statistic, “a single teenage mom.” I decided to tell my mother the following weekend. I did this knowing that I had disgraced my mother and the family name, although I did not tell her how it had happened. My mother’s response shocked me. She was very attentive and listened to everything I said, but she did not say a word to me. I felt like I had lost the one person who would help me through everything that life throws at me. Two months passed and I still hadn’t heard a single word from my mother. I tried by all means to apologize, but she would not listen.

I then decided to confide in a teacher at my school, not knowing what she could do for me. She took me under her protection. She did everything for me and my unborn baby. She made sure I had a scan done and set me up with a counselor so that I might be able to concentrate at school. My mother spoke to me for the first time, four months into my pregnancy. She told me that she wants nothing to do with me, and as soon as the baby is born, she will take it and raise it as her own. Everyone one that I thought was my friend has left me, I’ve lost both my parents, and I will soon loose my baby. I whole life is destroyed. I just hope that people won’t look at my baby and compare her to me. I hope that she will be able to replace me, and maybe mother’s heart won’t be hollow. I pray every night that god protects my baby that she may live life to the fullest and achieve all her dreams. Would have loved to a part of her life, like any mother would, but that won’t be happening.”

This girl had a bright future ahead of her, but because of a single event, and within less than twenty four hours, she lost everything. Some people have the strength to get up when they fall, but unfortunately for Samone Moodley, that chance has passed. Samone committed suicide after her baby was born. She left her parents a letter, telling them about how it all happened and how she could no-longer live the pain. Samone’s baby will grow up not knowing her biological parents.

 

Teenage pregnancy is not a joke, neither is it a fashion statement, it is something that can make a person change for the better or a take turn for the worst.

woman of faith

WOMAN OF FAITH.

From humble beginnings in KZN, she is a simple Zulu girl, whose life has been changed by the grace of the Lord Jesus.
Pinky Mthetwa grew up very very poor. She says the day she gave her life to Jesus, things took a turn for the better. There is a song from Shirley Caesar that says when you come in contact with God you are never the same again. This was so true for Pastor Pinky, because God has made her into a powerful, God fearing woman. “I am comfortable with who I am for now”.
She tells me where God has taken her from and lead her to. From a place where she was deep in sin; she's is now growing in faith, prayer and fasting, overcoming by grace the things that held her back - they don’t have hold over her anymore. She has been granted the power to overcome the devil. She is still on her journey. “I’m getting there”.
Her greatest passion is poor people, helping them in anyway she can: clothes, food and anything she can help with. She tells me, she knows how it feels. She says she knows when you are poor, you just wish that there could be that somebody who can help you, an angel, she wants to be that angel for somebody. She has a project that helps under-privileged people, but because of finances and other circumstances, the project had to come to a hold. “I love poor people”.
Pastor P. Bagah is a mother and a loving wife. The legacy she would love to leave behind for her family is the legacy of love. She loves her family, her kids and her husband, she wants them to know that even in death. She wants her kids to know that you need to cherish people and have compassion, that is one of the other legacies she would love to leave behind, one of compassion. She wants her kids to have patience with people and share what they have, if they do have.
Being a pastor's wife puts a little more pressure on her because as the wife of a pastor, you don’t have a 9-5 job, but have a 24/7 job. You don’t just live for yourself, but for others. You sometimes want to just breakdown, but you think of everyone depending on you and you need to smile more than others because people depend on you and you need to be willing to wake up late even at midnight to pray for someone or just to listen. There's pressure. you find that I have to deal with the kids on one side and the church on the other.“ I have no time off”.
At home she is at work.
Pastor Pinky Bagah has been on radio a number of times preaching. I asked what she feels about women in ministry. As a woman in the ministry she feels that God has opened doors to women in the ministry. In the past the where things that we dubbed as being only for male Pastors, God knows there is much potential in women and He is using them more and more. Being on radio is humbling for her, because she does not just talk to 2 or 3 people but she speaks to many people and that way she is able to reach more people for the Gospel. “As women, I thank God for the doors He is opening for us”. God is really raising up great women in the ministry and Pastor P. Bagah happens to be one of them.
She is enjoying where she is and believes that God is taking her places. For women in ministry there is a certain attitude towards them. Pastor P. Bagah feels like female Pastor aren’t as well treated as males Pastors are. There is more pressure on women. People look at all aspects of their lives, the way they raise their children, their home life, how they carry themselves and their marriage. You find that if a male Pastor does something wrong, people don’t take as much care for it then if it had been a female Pastor or leading ladies.
Her best bible quote is Psalms 91 “ you are safe” . Pastor P. Bagah has written an unpublished book which she would like to be publishe in the next five years. Her book speaks about; "women arise, women have been held down for so many years, I believe it is time for women to arise, and do something for themselves". She knows the Lord will groom her spiritually and use her in His ministry worldwide. She loves travelling and so preaching the Word around the world is one of her dreams.
Pastor’s biggest dream “for now” is to own her own beautiful home.
Truly a woman after Gods own heart. From a humble start, to a graceful life. God knows where He is taking her and if He can take someone out of poverty into provision, out of sin into grace, then God lives. I love how Pastor says, “I'm getting there”, even being a pastor does not mean you are perfect, but it means that you are walking in the light and grace. God is using women all over for His gospel and if only we will call to His name, and let Him change our lives.
Thank you to pastor P. Bagar for chatting with us and inspiring us.

unsung hero

 

Author: koketso Mashaba - 12/31/2011 - 22:00

Unsung Heroes

A very rare but truly special occurrence is when you live with a heroic spirit at home. I am one of the few who are blessed with this remarkable privilege. Writing this article will be one of my many emotional and retrospective moments…
Masana Elsie Motubatse, what a woman! Born into a family of five children, married at the tender age of 19 and becoming a mother of five herself is but the tip of the iceberg of how her life would unfold. She fell under the sad reality that many women born in the 1940s live with - illiteracy. Being the determined young mother that she was, she sold fruit to fund her education and subsequently send her own children to school. She did her absolute best and watched God do the rest.
As she was raising her young ones, she started off as a nurse at Lydenburg Hospital. As her children ventured into their various varsities, she became an Afrikaans teacher at a rural school. Naturally as it would occur in one’s career, she later became the Principal at two respective rural schools. God elevated her and positioned her in His own pace! She later got involved in ANCWL and started running various women-empowering projects, where the focus was to help rural women become self-sufficient. This was especially important to her because she had been divorced from the father of her children and had to learn to fend for her five.
Good things come to them that wait, is the description of the next stage of her life. She received national recognition for her efforts in her community- she was awarded “Community Builder of the Year 2002” in her late 50s. God didn’t stop elevating her there, no! She became the Mayor of Burgersfort in 2006, the Municipal speaker of Tubatse Municipality from 2007-2010. Through this channel, she has been able to send innumerable under- privileged youth to prestigious varsities via bursaries. And several to Cuba study medicine.
The test of all tests struck her during this year, 2011. She had been in an accident where she collided with a truck, head-on! As her grandchild I was utterly devastated and drove from Pretoria to Limpopo to see my gran-gran! To my surprise and comfort, she had walked away from the accident without a scratch! I wept as she testified to me how faithful our God is, she said “He said I should not fear, He said he will finish what He has started. Who am I to doubt the Word of God?” . Jitters, goose-bumps! God has done exactly that

your future is in you hands

Your future is in your hands






As young women we need to have direction, we need to learn how to dream and to set goals for ourselves. Knowing who you are and understanding your gifts and talents will help you find your direction in life easier then most. I know this might sound crazy, but when choosing your career path never look at a job based on the salary, but look at where your passion is. If you choose something based on money you might find that in the next ten years you will be looking for something different, bored of the job you doing right now. Your success lays in your blessings and your blessings lays in your passion. The world is you oyster.






Young woman you are gifted and until you know what your gifts and talents are, you will never reach your full potential . You are born to lead, people think to be a leader you have to the be the boss or the “man” on top.






Being a leader is more then just your position or ranking, you must be a good listener and when you listen you must hear what others are saying, being able to motivate and captivate people around you, do not demand respect but work to gain the respect of your peers and be humble. In South Africa we have a saying, “umtu ngumtu ngabantu” meaning “ a person is a person because of people. Being humble and acknowledging the people around you shows your humanity (ubuntu). You might not be the boss or have a higher ranking, but you can be a leader.






As you choose your direction, setting your goals, do not be limited to your surroundings or your resources. Those who make it in life, are those who saw something in nothing, they set their sights on their dreams and set out to reach them. The are always people standing on the door step of your destiny, who want to close the door to your success, telling you, you are not going to make it fear in life, you will fail and that you will never succeed. You need to persevere and push you’re your way through.










Take advise, ask questions from the experienced, gain wisdom and understanding of how to get to your destination, find people in the industry you are in or want to be in and ask them for advice. Never listen to negative people and do not surround yourself with them. Stick with people who are motivated and motivating, people of the same yoke. If you want to be the best, one of a kind, then you must be prepared to face one of a kind problems. Young woman have direction, set goals and dream. The only person that can help you succeed is you and the grace of God.






I’m not saying you should not seek help, seek help, seek good help, but do not depend on those people for your dreams to come true but it is up to you to make sure they do.






Your future is in your hands young woman.

how skinny is to skinny

How skinny is too skinny?

So many young teens struggle with self image. Starving yourself has never been the answer. Girls go to extremes just to look like the perfect model, only to end up looking worse than skeletons. This is the question we asked, “how skinny is too skinny “?

Anorexia! Bulimia! malnutrition!

So many young girls are pulled into the so called ‘"perfect image world", whereby the smaller you are the more beautiful you are considered. Young girls have fallen in to this trap, and are starving themselves to look “hot”, like their favourite Celebs. Looking at the modelling world, the models on runways are unrealistically small. They have taken the word skinny to a new level. We thank the Spanish model industry that has introduced a new weight law for their models to keep a healthy image for their modelling world . Self image, self esteem. When skinny is just not enough! Teenage girls want to be skinny. I’m sure you have heard this topic over and over and over again and still are hearing it. You might not be the smallest girl in the world, actually you might be far from it. Maybe you’ve tried so many ways of losing weight and in the quest of losing the weight, you lost yourself instead of the weight.
There's nothing worse than looking at someone who was the same size as you and see them looking half your size. You feel as though you are a failure, sometimes you even feel as though you have done something to deserve this punishment because it feels as though you are being punished.
Losing weight is the biggest phenomenon in the world right now. Can we really look at stars like Kim Kardashian and Nonhle Thema and measure our weight loss to theirs? Well no, you cannot look at them and say you want to lose the weight as fast as they did or say you want to start the same diet. I know it sounds so easy saying it but trust me, it is far from it; first thing you need to understand is that these celebrities have the money and time, they hire trainers and dietitians to plan their diets and even hire chefs to cook for them, so what about you the normal every day woman on an average salary or university student, can you really compete with these celebrities? One other thing, having great bodies is part of their job descriptions, so unless you have a job that pays you to have a body like theirs. The best way to get the best results for losing weight are:
Keeping a food diary- writing down everything you eat, setting goals for yourself ,understanding you body type Look at your environment, making up a strategic plan on how you are planning to lose the weight. E.G. exercising and eating less, assessing the plans and setting a time frame and after this, implementing it all. Love you!
Don’t expect too much from yourself too soon, take it one step at a time.
Remember no-one will ever appreciate you, until you appreciate yourself. Your self concept and confidence can be sensed by many and usually it takes the first impression to make people set standards about you, judge and characterize you.
The demand of wanting to be skinny is rising every day. I’m sure we have all heard our friends and families saying, “you look good the way you are, you don’t have to lose anything”, I think until you can say that about yourself, you should not listen to anyone. Losing weight should not be a priority, but instead being healthy and looking good should be.
You should be happy with you and let all else fall into place.

”happy to be plus” Look healthy and be happy, you don’t need to be a size zero to feel good. When is skinny too skinny? Young girls ,it’s time to love how you are and stop looking on TV to show you how ‘perfect’ looks.
Look in the mirror!

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you are fabulous

You are fabulous


Sometimes we don't feel as good as we should, we feel like “crap” to say the least. Now the reason we don't feel as good as we meant to, is because we look at other or to others. You need to stop comparing yourself and letting people compare you to others or letting people tell you what beautiful is and how to be beautiful. Beauty starts inside and manifests it's way outside, until you can see emotional and spiritual beauty you will never feel physical beauty.
You are fabulous not because of what you are wearing or what car you are driving, but because you have inner beauty, inner confidence and your spirit is beautiful. Maybe you haven't felt any of these beauties inside or out, how do you clean ones inner personality, how do you become beautiful in spirit and in heart?

We not all able to smile and whistle at all situation, and some may even have some temper problems, but it all takes work.
You need to first: Evaluate yourself– look at yourself inside, emotionally, what is that you would like to change about yourself, what would you like to improve on in your character. What do people think about you, what are the impressions you leave on people, how people see you is important. I know we are thought not to care what people say about us, but I believe there are some things that people say or think about us and our characters we need to look at and hear.
Second: Work on your faults– after you have seen your faults and evaluated yourself, you need to look at the next step of fixing and correcting your faults, you have to be able to look in the mirror and smile and say I’m the best me possible, until you learn to say that, the is still something wrong. You need to understand yourself and how your mind works, talk to yourself, tell yourself positive things and never lie to yourself, until you learn to be brutally honest with yourself, you will never fix or correct any of your faults.
Third step out ,and show the world you fabulousity–
you feeling good inside now, feel good outside as well, you don't need to wear expensive clothes to feel good, but dress to impress, once you love yourself let others see the you, you love and let them fall in love with you. How you presents yourself will determine what people see in you, your fabulousity. Clothes don't make a person, but the are a contributing factor


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