My child replaced me

Author: karabelo Lenong - 11/27/2011 - 14:55

Pregnancy in my eyes is the beginning of a new life. It is one of the many great gifts from God. A new life in the family brings an atmosphere filled with love, peace, joy and happiness. The whole family comes together to celebrate the miracle of life. This perspective, has however, been changed or rather shattered by the teenagers of our generation. Teenage pregnancy is an issue that is always discussed the are thing we are thought could prevent it from happening. The one thing that people rarely ever consider when talking about teenage pregnancy, is the damages it does to the families involved and how many relationships can be destroyed. This article is based on a story about a fifteen year old girl, whose pregnancy has left her relationship with her mother in shreds. “My name is Samone Moodley, I am a fifteen year old high school student, and I’m six moths pregnant. When I first found out that I would be a mother at the age of fifteen, I felt like my whole life was falling apart. Many people told me that I deserved what had happened, and that I knew what I was doing. My pregnancy, like many teenagers was not planned. My boyfriend and I had been dating well over a year now and he had respected everything that I stand for, including sex after marriage. Well, that was until recently.

My boyfriend asked me to have sex with him and I refused. He asked for quite a while, and I kept refusing. He eventually became furious with and in turn, forced himself onto me. I was raped by my boyfriend. For days I felt disgusted with myself, until I could no-longer look at myself in the mirror. I skipped my period and so I decided to get a home pregnancy test, and I was positive. I cried myself to sleep. A few days later, I realized that I could keep this to myself, and soon decided to tell my boyfriend. He was furious with me, and demanded that I get have an abortion. I refused and he lashed out at me, and thereafter, he left me. I became a statistic, “a single teenage mom.” I decided to tell my mother the following weekend. I did this knowing that I had disgraced my mother and the family name, although I did not tell her how it had happened. My mother’s response shocked me. She was very attentive and listened to everything I said, but she did not say a word to me. I felt like I had lost the one person who would help me through everything that life throws at me. Two months passed and I still hadn’t heard a single word from my mother. I tried by all means to apologize, but she would not listen.

I then decided to confide in a teacher at my school, not knowing what she could do for me. She took me under her protection. She did everything for me and my unborn baby. She made sure I had a scan done and set me up with a counselor so that I might be able to concentrate at school. My mother spoke to me for the first time, four months into my pregnancy. She told me that she wants nothing to do with me, and as soon as the baby is born, she will take it and raise it as her own. Everyone one that I thought was my friend has left me, I’ve lost both my parents, and I will soon loose my baby. I whole life is destroyed. I just hope that people won’t look at my baby and compare her to me. I hope that she will be able to replace me, and maybe mother’s heart won’t be hollow. I pray every night that god protects my baby that she may live life to the fullest and achieve all her dreams. Would have loved to a part of her life, like any mother would, but that won’t be happening.”

This girl had a bright future ahead of her, but because of a single event, and within less than twenty four hours, she lost everything. Some people have the strength to get up when they fall, but unfortunately for Samone Moodley, that chance has passed. Samone committed suicide after her baby was born. She left her parents a letter, telling them about how it all happened and how she could no-longer live the pain. Samone’s baby will grow up not knowing her biological parents.

 

Teenage pregnancy is not a joke, neither is it a fashion statement, it is something that can make a person change for the better or a take turn for the worst.