your future is in you hands

Your future is in your hands






As young women we need to have direction, we need to learn how to dream and to set goals for ourselves. Knowing who you are and understanding your gifts and talents will help you find your direction in life easier then most. I know this might sound crazy, but when choosing your career path never look at a job based on the salary, but look at where your passion is. If you choose something based on money you might find that in the next ten years you will be looking for something different, bored of the job you doing right now. Your success lays in your blessings and your blessings lays in your passion. The world is you oyster.






Young woman you are gifted and until you know what your gifts and talents are, you will never reach your full potential . You are born to lead, people think to be a leader you have to the be the boss or the “man” on top.






Being a leader is more then just your position or ranking, you must be a good listener and when you listen you must hear what others are saying, being able to motivate and captivate people around you, do not demand respect but work to gain the respect of your peers and be humble. In South Africa we have a saying, “umtu ngumtu ngabantu” meaning “ a person is a person because of people. Being humble and acknowledging the people around you shows your humanity (ubuntu). You might not be the boss or have a higher ranking, but you can be a leader.






As you choose your direction, setting your goals, do not be limited to your surroundings or your resources. Those who make it in life, are those who saw something in nothing, they set their sights on their dreams and set out to reach them. The are always people standing on the door step of your destiny, who want to close the door to your success, telling you, you are not going to make it fear in life, you will fail and that you will never succeed. You need to persevere and push you’re your way through.










Take advise, ask questions from the experienced, gain wisdom and understanding of how to get to your destination, find people in the industry you are in or want to be in and ask them for advice. Never listen to negative people and do not surround yourself with them. Stick with people who are motivated and motivating, people of the same yoke. If you want to be the best, one of a kind, then you must be prepared to face one of a kind problems. Young woman have direction, set goals and dream. The only person that can help you succeed is you and the grace of God.






I’m not saying you should not seek help, seek help, seek good help, but do not depend on those people for your dreams to come true but it is up to you to make sure they do.






Your future is in your hands young woman.

how skinny is to skinny

How skinny is too skinny?

So many young teens struggle with self image. Starving yourself has never been the answer. Girls go to extremes just to look like the perfect model, only to end up looking worse than skeletons. This is the question we asked, “how skinny is too skinny “?

Anorexia! Bulimia! malnutrition!

So many young girls are pulled into the so called ‘"perfect image world", whereby the smaller you are the more beautiful you are considered. Young girls have fallen in to this trap, and are starving themselves to look “hot”, like their favourite Celebs. Looking at the modelling world, the models on runways are unrealistically small. They have taken the word skinny to a new level. We thank the Spanish model industry that has introduced a new weight law for their models to keep a healthy image for their modelling world . Self image, self esteem. When skinny is just not enough! Teenage girls want to be skinny. I’m sure you have heard this topic over and over and over again and still are hearing it. You might not be the smallest girl in the world, actually you might be far from it. Maybe you’ve tried so many ways of losing weight and in the quest of losing the weight, you lost yourself instead of the weight.
There's nothing worse than looking at someone who was the same size as you and see them looking half your size. You feel as though you are a failure, sometimes you even feel as though you have done something to deserve this punishment because it feels as though you are being punished.
Losing weight is the biggest phenomenon in the world right now. Can we really look at stars like Kim Kardashian and Nonhle Thema and measure our weight loss to theirs? Well no, you cannot look at them and say you want to lose the weight as fast as they did or say you want to start the same diet. I know it sounds so easy saying it but trust me, it is far from it; first thing you need to understand is that these celebrities have the money and time, they hire trainers and dietitians to plan their diets and even hire chefs to cook for them, so what about you the normal every day woman on an average salary or university student, can you really compete with these celebrities? One other thing, having great bodies is part of their job descriptions, so unless you have a job that pays you to have a body like theirs. The best way to get the best results for losing weight are:
Keeping a food diary- writing down everything you eat, setting goals for yourself ,understanding you body type Look at your environment, making up a strategic plan on how you are planning to lose the weight. E.G. exercising and eating less, assessing the plans and setting a time frame and after this, implementing it all. Love you!
Don’t expect too much from yourself too soon, take it one step at a time.
Remember no-one will ever appreciate you, until you appreciate yourself. Your self concept and confidence can be sensed by many and usually it takes the first impression to make people set standards about you, judge and characterize you.
The demand of wanting to be skinny is rising every day. I’m sure we have all heard our friends and families saying, “you look good the way you are, you don’t have to lose anything”, I think until you can say that about yourself, you should not listen to anyone. Losing weight should not be a priority, but instead being healthy and looking good should be.
You should be happy with you and let all else fall into place.

”happy to be plus” Look healthy and be happy, you don’t need to be a size zero to feel good. When is skinny too skinny? Young girls ,it’s time to love how you are and stop looking on TV to show you how ‘perfect’ looks.
Look in the mirror!

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you are fabulous

You are fabulous


Sometimes we don't feel as good as we should, we feel like “crap” to say the least. Now the reason we don't feel as good as we meant to, is because we look at other or to others. You need to stop comparing yourself and letting people compare you to others or letting people tell you what beautiful is and how to be beautiful. Beauty starts inside and manifests it's way outside, until you can see emotional and spiritual beauty you will never feel physical beauty.
You are fabulous not because of what you are wearing or what car you are driving, but because you have inner beauty, inner confidence and your spirit is beautiful. Maybe you haven't felt any of these beauties inside or out, how do you clean ones inner personality, how do you become beautiful in spirit and in heart?

We not all able to smile and whistle at all situation, and some may even have some temper problems, but it all takes work.
You need to first: Evaluate yourself– look at yourself inside, emotionally, what is that you would like to change about yourself, what would you like to improve on in your character. What do people think about you, what are the impressions you leave on people, how people see you is important. I know we are thought not to care what people say about us, but I believe there are some things that people say or think about us and our characters we need to look at and hear.
Second: Work on your faults– after you have seen your faults and evaluated yourself, you need to look at the next step of fixing and correcting your faults, you have to be able to look in the mirror and smile and say I’m the best me possible, until you learn to say that, the is still something wrong. You need to understand yourself and how your mind works, talk to yourself, tell yourself positive things and never lie to yourself, until you learn to be brutally honest with yourself, you will never fix or correct any of your faults.
Third step out ,and show the world you fabulousity–
you feeling good inside now, feel good outside as well, you don't need to wear expensive clothes to feel good, but dress to impress, once you love yourself let others see the you, you love and let them fall in love with you. How you presents yourself will determine what people see in you, your fabulousity. Clothes don't make a person, but the are a contributing factor


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